How do we remember each other? 

By sight? When the light is just so? By the sound of rain?
By a touch, or maybe by a way that we move?
Or does some scent--our strongest and most immediate route--lead us to memory?

I remember my clients most easily through these senses: I sense visually and energetically the way they carry themselves, and I sense though touch.
....Ahh, yes this beloved being has moved from that way of living to this way. 

How do we remember our own "best selves"?

Face-to-face contact super-reinforces our memories, which is why it's so good to surround ourselves with people who uplift us, who bring out "our best selves" as Judith Aston says.

Some of the ways we are reminded of our best selves, while not pleasant, are still good for us. 
For instance, I've committed to wearing "unloading" braces for 10 weeks to help correct the muscle imbalances in my legs and relieve arthritis pain in my knees. 
And let me tell you, it hurts my vanity. But, wow! my legs are stronger and my knees are happier!

But even more impressive to me. Once I stopped to pay attention (thanks in part to Peppermint essential oil!): After one week of image-battering, brace-wearing I'm discovering not only am I in less pain, but the extra support that my lower body, especially my joints, can give me, the more focused my mind is....here I am, writing a blog that I could not focus on before!
I simply didn't have the grounding in my physical body to propel my mind toward the work of putting a newsletter together, even though I missed you very much!

So what in your life would it be good to be reminded of?
Who can help you get there?
Maybe I can help, because....

I want your body (and the whole of you)...to feel fine!

Want more? Try a couple tips from my ebook "16 Tips for Increasing Your Mojo" ​

I love these easy tactics from Sheevaun Moran's newsletter so much that I had to share them with you:

"What a beautiful Saturday for creating and simply being,

Has this week left you with a bit of wobbly insight?

Are you feeling raw, but are ready for magic to happen?

Today I want to empower you to embrace the fun….

And I have some forgotten tactics, to take you from raw, to invigorated and ready to conquer the world. 


    3 Forgotten Tactics to Energize Your Body & Mind!


1: Shake Shake Shake… Shake Your Body 

Shake. Jump. Run. Walk. Stretch. Dance. It doesn’t have to take an hour. It doesn’t even have to cause you to break a sweat. Just move your body. I challenge you to turn on your favorite song, this is one of mine, and dance your socks off. 
It’s amazing how moving your body can boost both your mood and your energy level."
(In fact, you can get down to "Freedom" by Pharrell Williams right now!)

2: Become a Water Baby

"If you don’t have salt for a bath at home, the next time you are at the store, grab some. Detox from your week, from a long day, or even a stressful phone call with a soak in a salt bath. With just 20 min in the tub, tension, negative energy, and even stress wash from you into the water. 

Don’t have a bathtub, that’s okay, you can sprinkle salt into the bottom of your shower and rub your feet into it. You can also add salt to your body wash / bath gel and then massage it into your skin while in the shower. 


3: Give the Gift of Yourself

Do one thing today for someones else. No matter how big or small when you act in service to others, it up levels your happiness and energetics. 

Hold the door for someone whose hands are full.

Bring home a new chew toy for Fiddo.

Read an extra chapter to your kiddo at story-time. 

Make silly faces at the baby sitting in the cart in front of you at the store. 

Pick up trash floating around the park while on your walk. 

Text a friend, coworker, family member and tell them how amazing they are. 

By taking time to help or share happiness with those around you, you are serving yourself in the process. So share the love, share the laughs, share you. 

Make this weekend awesome. Make it full of laughter and some fun."

Check out more yum from  SheevaunMoran.com and  get the download 5essentialenergies.com. 

How is your loving going these days? How do you practice growing it? Here's one way.

Lately this winter I have been waking early. I come downstairs to sit in my sunroom looking north across the bare trees in my little yard and watch the morning begin. I hold a cup of tea against my chest and let my slowly healing concussed brain wake at its own pace.
If I'm lucky, I'm early enough to watch the birds wake up.
The crows are first.

There is a winter roost to my west where hundreds of crows settle together for the night sharing stories and loving in their noisy, alien way. I have happened upon 3 winter roosts of an evening in Portland. One downtown. One on a steep slope by Johns Landing and the one near me on 19th and SE Oak. 
​Lucky.

In the morning just as dark turns to gray, but before colors are bright, the crow parade begins.
A group of 10 or 20 race high above my yard from west to east. If I'm lucky I'll be gifted to catch the friskier ones play tag along the way. Then empty sky. Then five, or three, or seven. Then two. Then one. And one. And one.
The sky lightens and little songbirds that my neighbor feeds flit between my small, budding magnolia and the asian pear tree. They hang out for  awhile, then the squirrels bound their giant selves through the branches.
​If I'm really lucky, a little later a group of 20-30 crows will have their coffee break in the bare branches of a tree 2 blocks over.

Once last summer:  The crows have moved out of their winter roosts and into their own nests, I make friends with a young crow in my back yard. He caws and I say, "Good morning." We have quite a conversation for several days. He swoops above me, not too near. His mother keeps watch.
Then it rains and I think I've lost him.
The first sunny day after that long rain, I ride my bike down my driveway and turn up the street. A crow swoops low across the front of my bike and lands forward to my right, cocking his head, looking at me.  "Good morning!" and I feel lucky.
Four hours and 2 stops later, I'm leaving a friend's house several miles away to head home. He swoops and lands exactly as he had earlier. We greet each other. If crows could smile, his smile would be amused.

​I love crows. I love their mischievous, raucous, cautious, sleek selves. I've always wanted more than they give.
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But lately I've come to this:
from a lesson that Kisma Orbavich posted from her teacher.
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Love + Attachment = Selfishness
Attachment - Selfishness = Love
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​And I feel lucky.

​BUT WAIT! THERE'S MORE... AND IT'S GOOD NEWS!​

​We can nourish ourselves and fill our reservoir with these:

1. Hydration
2. Movement

These first two go together. If you're sitting at your computer or book sipping from your gallon of water, even if you get up every 20 minutes for a little break, the water you take in will barely reach any of your cells and tissues. It won't be able to do the job of cleaning out the gunk and delivering the goods.
So when you get up, move! Put on some music and dance like no one's watching. Get on the floor and roll around. Kick up your heels, even one at a time.
      3.  Grounding
We are an electromagnetic system. We need to ground all the positive ions we produce back into the earth. 
Just like it's safe to be in your car in a lightning strike, because the current won't travel through your rubber tires, it's the same with the shoes we wear--no place for those +ions to go. 
Take off your shoes. Let your bare feet touch the ground or the floor....It's ok to wear socks, by the way....
      4.  Joy    ​
Just smiling first thing in the morning, no matter what mood you wake in will slingshot you toward joy.  Cultivate it. Grow it with your intention. Find things in your past, your present and in your imagined future that spark joy.

A few weeks ago, when I sat up groggily and burst into tears, I was inspired!

Actually, I had been driving myself for months. We sold the building I'd worked in for 26 years and I'd relocated 5 times in a year. So it had taken a sledge hammer of pain to get my attention.  

I grew up with the chronic pain of degenerative hip disease, so I have had a lifelong pattern of ignoring discomfort in order to live the life I wanted....until I simply couldn't move.

The bugaboo for me is rest. 
Am I resting or am I defeated?  And by golly, I will not be defeated.

There's a difference between good hard work and going over the line. One message our society in the US encourages us to do is work till we drop. And there's another which says that because we do this, we "deserve" something good. We aren't encouraged to think about how we affect others. Comfort becomes the goal.

But there are other ways to be.

I also spent 20 years suffering with ulcerative colitis. During this time, a friend wrote me a note which I kept taped to a drawer near my treatment room. It said:
​"If I don't want to talk to my client,
If I watch the clock during a session,
If I think my client is annoying,
This means I'm sick and I need to lie down RIGHT NOW!"
Then I would, and a miracle would happen: I'd feel better and my clients returned to being charming!!

​This week I'm at the Oregon Coast where I'm not distracted by the pulls I feel at home. It's been glorious! I've had little hilarious adventures in healing and I've been drawing every day. And I'm having many, many hours of rest....and fun.  And at the end of the week, I will come back refreshed, with new thoughts on connecting and caring--both for myself and for others.

And so what about you? How do you "push yourself around"? And how do you counter the messages that encourage you to?

​Is it time for a little (maybe hilarious) help healing?

Have you ever thought: "I want to go to ABC," or "I want to do XYZ, but I can't get started?" 
Or maybe you've thought, "I don't actually know what I want."

Since we need a place to start, we might as well start where we are.

So it's good to notice if you're in your body--or not.  
When we feel "spacey" or "in our head" then we're not connected fully to our bodies, and so we have less internal resource.

So how do we get grounded so we can take a next step?

If you've followed my blogs then you know getting grounded, and knowing your Base of Support is one of my favorite topics.

So try step one: 

• Sit at the edge of your chair. Feet on the floor. This is a good start.   Now you have a 4-point Base of Support: your sit-bones/thighs and your feet are holding all your weight. From here the rest of you has someplace to stack onto.  And just this can wake us up. 
• Put your hands on your thighs so that your thumbs rest at the crease where your leg bends to make a lap.
• Keeping your shoulders firmly down, inhale and press your hands and feet down at the same time. This does 2 things. It lengthens and straightens your back and tips you forward slightly.
• Stay in this position as you exhale and let go of all the "push."
• If you notice that your lower belly is doing just a little work, then you're in a "grounded" alignment.
• And because you've released your "push," you're both relaxed and ready to get going!

Good morning!!   You've just woken your body up and with it your brain!

Of course there are more ways to get grounded and I'll go into that in my next blogs. In the mean time, just coming back to this simple exercise will help.
​Oh, and remember to stay hydrated.
Let's toast to waking up with some water. 
"To Life!!"

On my way driving to Cannon Beach, Oregon in the bright sunshine this week, I was stopped by beauty; so stopped that I actually turned around less than 20 miles from that rare sunny day on the coast.

I had been basking as I drove, in the loveliness of Spring turning to Summer; the beauty of things growing.

But I gasped at the beauty of something broken.

It was a magnificent old maple with limbs splaying wide in all directions--except one.

At the heart of the tree was a jagged tear where an enormous branch had recently broken. The branch lay there heavy and still. The gash on the tree was open and raw...and breathtaking.
My first words were, "Oh my god! How beautiful!" 

In this culture, where we're encouraged to love the new and the young, what I was struck with was this:
deep, abiding and lasting beauty​ takes time to form. It takes injury and then the change and even flourishing after injury to form. The winds blow us into beauty.

It is wabi-sabi. "Pared down to its barest essence, wabi-sabi is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection and profundity in nature, of accepting the natural cycle of growth, decay, and death. It's simple, slow, and uncluttered-and it reveres authenticity above all."

And wabi-sabi is in all of us. 
​I think of the deep, expressive, not-always-beautiful wrinkles on the cheeks of my father's mother that I longed to inherit, and that now are my own.

So what part of life shows in you that might take one's breath away? What have you grown around? What is your uniqueness? Your strength after injury? And how might you allow the ones around you to nurture your love of this part of yourself?

​Alice laughed. "There's no use trying," she said: "one can't believe impossible things."
"I daresay you haven't had much practice," said the Queen. "When I was your age, I always did it for half-an-hour a day. Why sometimes I've believed as many as six impossible things before dinner!" from Through the Looking Glass by Lewis Carroll
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If it weren't for the fact that every single year for my entire life the sun moves north and tulips shoot up and birds start singing their spring songs, I would wonder if this year I'd entered Narnia during the White Queen's reign in Oregon.

But something outside of me reminded me that this is not the year of eternal winter: two days of warm sunshine in a row after this long, cold, dreary fall-winter!

I can't always count on my own sense of what's possible and what's not. No one can.
We're social beings, deeply rooted in the fabric of Mother Earth.

Two things are true:

1. We cannot see what we cannot see in ourselves.
2. We are conditioned to over think, work hard, push push push, and make less of the messages our bodies are getting, which means we miss important information.

Two other things are true:

1. When we are in relation with a trusted other, e.g. spring always comes; they'll let us know that "the sun'll come out tomorrow," or tell us when we have spinach in our teeth, or that there's a way to change the habit that's creating or worsening that annoying pain.
2. You can't predict where this help is going to come from. But you can make yourself available for that help.
   
   

A case in point:
A few years ago, I'd been in an accident and had not been able to sit comfortably for months because of nerve pain. I went to a business conference to learn about money. Sheevaun Moran was the last person I thought I'd want to have a conversation with (oh prejudice!) and yet in her workshop, which I reluctantly attended, she asked me in front of the crowd, “Why do you want to get rid of this pain?” After each answer she'd curtly say, “No, that's not it.” and ask again. When I blurted out my secret, “Because I want a big life!” She said “That's it. Go sit down.” She gave a couple more simple things for me to do during the conference, which, since I was feeling much better, I did. By the way, she also helped me change my relationship with money....and with energy.


So think about your life. What's going well? What, outside of your self has helped? You have a roof over your head. Someone said a kind word. Someone insisted you do something you didn't want to do and it paid off. Spring finally arrived!!

And what's nagging? What, if it were gone, would help open you to your big life?
Make yourself available, receptive, “completely receptive.” And listen, watch, let yourself be curious. Take a step and notice what results.
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Is the result in the direction you want to go? Great! Go for it!
Is the result nebulous or negative? Continue to make yourself available to the interconnected web of life, and take another step.