When we are dealing with chronic pain, it's a slippery slope to those ancient feelings that we didn't get a chance to deal with....Despair can set in.
Once we were very young. Things happened that were out of our control. We couldn't know things would get better. Often our well meaning adults weren't able to be there when we needed to be comforted and assured.
But we can remind ourselves things are different now.
Here are 5 surprisingly easy ways out:
1. Breathe. Inhale deeply to a count of 6
Pause at the top for 3 (hover, don't hold)
Exhale completely 6, Pause 3
Repeat this 10 times. You are controlling your breath, slowing it down, exercising under-used lung space and giving your body a chance to be fed and dump the junk.
Add a person: Do this together and the first one to laugh gets to enjoy it even more.
2. Smile. First thing in the morning. For no reason. It doesn't matter if you feel like smiling, the muscles in your face are connected to your emotions, and this will lift you up.
Add a person: Smile a genuine smile (not a grimace) someone you know...or don't know and see what happens....
3. Have a good cry. If you feel bad, consider crying, roaring, moaning, shivering, yawning, laughing till you're out of breath. This doesn't have to take long, and it clears up your mind for better things to think about.
Add a person: ...that will be delighted that you're clearing out the old gunk. Set a time limit (use a timer) and honor it so your subconscious knows it will end. Sometimes we need to drop down and let our feet touch the bottom of the pool before we shoot up.
4. Get physical: If you're not moving, walk, run, swim, play hopscotch, get outside.
Add a person: Go on a moving date. Make a moving date. Even reaching for the phone to make a call counts.
If you are over-doing it, lie down flat on the floor for 5 minutes. Your body will rest and your mind will have a new perspective.
Add a person: This can be fun! Look at clouds, pretend to look at clouds; what do you see?
5. Learn something. Pick up a book, knitting needles, a screwdriver (the kind that works on wood).
Add a person: Ask a friend how they do something you're curious about, and try it. Even 15 minutes of stretching your brain (while it can be uncomfortable at the time) will refresh you.
See? You've already gotten to look at things from a little different angle. Download my free booklet "16 Tips for Increasing Your Mojo" for more ideas. Or call me @ 503-709-9983 and let's talk about you.
"I'm bad about exercise....I can't get motivated..." Do these sound familiar?
We are made to move, and the less we move, the quicker we move into feeling bad in lots of ways: physically, mentally and emotionally.
Life's consequences can sneak up on us as we age.
Suddenly you discover you can't do something you've always done......mine was kneeling. Through all the years I taught children, I sat on my knees. I just didn't think about it. And then, a bunch of years after I'd quit teaching, I couldn't. I'd always had a tweak or two in my knees. But I didn't realize what was happening with them. I went to PT and got exercises to strengthen the muscles around my knees. It helped.
But what really helped was learning about the route that the weight of my step was taking as it flowed down my legs and rebounded back up. My route was definitely leading to a crash landing!
There's a saying in Aston-Patterning: "The body has a sensitive dependence on initial conditions."
One example of this is that if your foot, with its many joints, can touch the ground in a new and better way, then everything above it will respond in a bigger, and better way.
To take this in the direction of can't-get-motivated, if you experience a way that allows you to move with less pain, and you know how to re-create that experience, then the good feeling in your body will influence the hunger in your mind-set to continue.
That's why getting individual attention to address the many ways your history is affecting your movement is so useful. This includes hands-on bodywork to change tissues that are stuck in the old pattern, and movement re-education with review to help you remember how good it feels to move in the new way.
Do you want a kick-start to feel better fast? Click here to get my free booklet.
I'm Valerie Lyon, the Mojo Recovery Therapist.