Have you tried affirmations and found they don't fit, feel forced or you plain forget about them after a day or two?
In November, Dr. Pamela Jeanne and I held our fifth Sunday Seminar "Designing Your New Life"!
Here are a few comments we received from attendees: "This workshop will help you live with yourself". "This is an opportunity for significant life change", "Just do it". This is the best comment: "Experience a new use of yourself as a person who is in love with herself."
It's exciting to see these women use a combination of processes to look and feel utterly different and better; with a sense of possibility they didn't have just 4 hours before.
We all wear whatever history we haven't let go of yet in our bodies and our faces. As a Barral Visceral Manipulation teacher once said, "Whatever negative emotion we haven't had the opportunity to release completely, our body will kindly store for us..." till we have the opportunity to release it. And this frees up our brain to think more clearly--always a good thing.
When we feel sad or hurt or scared, our bodies automatically respond by hugging our heart or protecting our vulnerable front. We fold forward, our head following our spine, our eyes look down. This is good. This is wonderful! Support just when we need it for just the feeling we're having!!
We just don't want to get stuck there. We can lose the natural muscle tone that bounces us back.
When we're elated, we arch our backs, raise our hands above our shoulders, arms outstretched, head up to see the world and revel in it. This is good. This is wonderful! Support from our whole body for this wonderful feeling we're having. We just don't want to get stuck there, either. We can get locked into a pattern of tension.
Both extremes are out of balance and require more energy than we need to expend if we stay there.
And since Life often intervenes before we have the chance to make the choice to move easily in and out of a posture in our own time, we end up expressing one end or the other, or even a combo, thinking, "it's just the way I am."
So take a moment now. Notice how you feel. What part of you supports a feeling of up? "yay!" Or maybe there's a hint of, "You can't make me." This is a more up posture as well. Maybe your low back, or your head? It could be any part. What part of you supports a feeling of "down"?
Imagine that you can easily find a way to move from one to another. Because you can. Check out my earlier blog for a simple version, or click here to watch a video from Judith Aston, introducing "Sitting."
When you've found a powerful "neutral" you can add power, authenticity and effectiveness to the words you are telling yourself....your affirmation. After all "thoughts are just thoughts, and we can change our thoughts. When we change our thoughts, we change our world."
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I'm Valerie Lyon, the Mojo Recovery Therapist.